knitting and the life I almost have around it

Sunday, August 02, 2009

take a deep breath now

So apparently now I have 62 days to go. Arg!

The dress has been delayed. Was supposed to be early June and now it won't be at the shop until September 2nd. Considering the wedding date is 3rd October, it's taking a concerted effort not to hyperventilate about this. Busiest time of year for weddings, 4 weeks to fit...
My veil also appears to be taking longer than suggested - why is white so hard to get a hold of? If I wanted cream I could have walked out of the boutique with a new one in a packet! Every wedding shop treats me like a freak of nature because white suits me better... I'm trying to take it as a sign that I'm special.
The jeweler ordered Monkey's ring in the wrong size - apparently Q and O are too hard to tell apart.

I finished weaving the bridesmaids stoles this week, which is a huge relief. it's not that they were at all difficult, it's just warping is a pain in the butt. Has anyone worked out a more efficient method than shoving loose bits of paper in as you wind up the warp? I also found these earrings at Diva, which i think are perfect for the bridesmaids. I love them so much that i bought myself a pair too.

On the weight-loss front, I'm doing really well. From February to May i lost about 4 kilos on my own, and then I joined Fernwood to give me a boost. Since I joined I've lost another 5, and i actually have muscle tone again. I feel like I'm getting my body back.
Through Fernwood I have had help through their Slimplicity program, but I have to say I'm ambivalent as to how helpful it's been. To start with, their daily food allowances gives you 1200 calories, and everywhere else I've looked suggests that this is way too low for my height and level of excercise. Dangerous even.
Also, I am doing a great deal of weights training, and the protein allowance for one day is 90g. This is less than a small tin of tuna.
So, basically, I've been ignoring it. I already ate quite well, but I've cut down on sugar and high-fat foods, and upped my already high intake of fruit and veg. I also read up on the CSIRO Total Wellbeing Diet, which makes HEAPS more sense. Plenty of protein, enough carbs for energy but not so much that it's awkward for me (who doesnt eat gluten and is out of the habit of eating any breads etc). lots of fruit and all the veges i can eat. perfect.
Problem is, I am between two consultants at the gym. One, I'll call her L, is lovely. late 30's, motherly, relaxed and positive. Every gram I lose is an achievement and she understands that i'm modifying the diet to suit my needs. The other lady, K (late 20's), is driving me nuts.
Now, before i go on too much, I need to explain my position. I gained weight because i was sick, for a long long time. The coeliac's affected my vitamin levels and i was physically sick all the time, just working 5 days sent me spiraling into exhaustion at night and weekends, migraine headaches, fatigue, nausea (on and off since age 7)... plus medication for depression etc over the last 10 years that all cause weight-gain. My weight-gain was not due to lack of self-control. I do not eat 20 donuts a day, i have never eaten at McDonalds... I enjoy excercise. I have good eating habits, despite my sweet tooth. I do indulge, but i'm not stupid about it.
Now L totally gets all this. She is awesome. Unfortunately, without any real warning, half the time i end up booked in with K. K clearly has one approach to motivating weight loss clients - fear. when i re-gained 500g due to bloat she gave me a telling off like no other, despite my telling her I was having a shocker period and had probably gained. When i lost a kilo in a week, she tells me (very sarcy) "see what you can achieve when you follow the program?". For starters, I am NOT following their sadistic program, and secondly she needs to back off before i smack her in the teeth.
I dont think I'm being unreasonable to expect her to modify her approach for me. After all, I'm paying for the priviledge. I've rebelled so far by refusing to keep a food diary any more (she doesnt trust me, despite 2 months of identical daily food lists). It's all very passive aggressive - i just dont bring it and tell her i forgot. I'm honest with her about what i eat, i tell her i had a couple of minties a few days ago ("We just have to make sure it isnt every snack, mm-kay?" Knowing look, ARGGG).
She also tells me my weight and measurements like a) she is giving me a gift that she made herself and b) she owns this knowledge about my body and i should be grateful that she chose to share. I know what I weigh. I know my measurements. I measure myself every week to make sure my knitting is going to fit. She wants me to thank her for all the hard work i have done.
Any suggestions about what I do about this would be appreciated. I dont want to be nasty, and i dont particularly want to complain to her manager, but i also dont want to keep paying for a weekly reprimand (whether i do well or not).

In knitting news, I joined the ravelry group NaKniSweMoDo (National Knit a Sweater a Month Dodecathon) earlier this year and am quite chuffed to announce I am up to number 11 :D
Number 1
Number 2
Number 3
Number 4
Number 5
Number 6
Number 7
Number 8Number 9
Number 10

Number 11 is Slinky Ribs by Wendy Bernard in Bendigo Harmony. More news on that one when i finish. More details for all projects here

ok, enough now. phew!

peace out,
Ms Spider xo

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  • At August 02, 2009 6:11 pm, Blogger Janet McKinney said…

    I tell you nothing you don't already know - you are paying for support, then you should get the support you need. Complain if it is the only way to get what you need.

    Well done by the way - very well done with what you have done. In the end, you are accountable only to yourself, and anyone else YOU choose to make yourself accountable to.

  • At August 02, 2009 8:05 pm, Blogger Bec said…

    Congratulations on the great results on the weight front! Can you tell K that her attitude/approach isn't 'you'? Or when you book an appointment can you ask who the particular trainer will be?

    All your knitting looks fabulous as well - So much productivity!!

  • At August 03, 2009 11:38 am, Blogger TinkingBell said…

    Well doine - But bugger the sadistic bint - when you bookm ask for the other one and say that you mesh better with her - she understands your needs better.

    Make sure that you state this positively - do not put up with being patronised by a git - especially when you are paying!
    Welldone on the knitting front - gorgeous!

  • At August 04, 2009 2:06 am, Anonymous sarai said…

    Awesome work on the sweaters! I am in awe.

    I think you could approach management without making a complaint, as TinkingBell suggests: "Is it possible to book a consultation with a specific trainer? I've found someone I mesh very well with and would prefer to work exclusively with her."

    You would also be in line to have a forthright conversation with K, telling her that her tactics/reasoning are not effective for your situation. Would she listen, or are you better off to cut ties?

  • At August 04, 2009 10:41 pm, Blogger Michelle said…

    Hmmm. I have heard bad things about one of the consultants at Fernwood, much along the lines of what you are saying here. Myself, I'd either tell her to back off, and say "you are not helping me in the slightest, in fact you are causing me a great deal of stress".

    Nah, scrap that. I'd actually tell her manager. Imagine how many people have given up because of her!

    The sweaters are absolutely beautiful, all of them. Well done!

  • At August 08, 2009 5:34 am, Blogger Daisy said…

    OK, how many sweaters is that?! Good grief! I'm sure it'll all work out in time for the wedding - my Mum finished making my bridesmaid dress for one 20 minutes before I drove off for the ceremony!

  • At August 08, 2009 6:04 pm, Blogger catsmum said…

    my DD's wedding isn't until October next year and from reading your post I think we'll need all of those extra 52 wweeks. like you she looks better in white - but at least thanks to you we have a heads up about potential problems - and also like you she is gluten [ and a whole bunch of other things] intolerant.
    I refuse to make any of the dresses but have offered stoles, shawls or fingerless gloves as required.

    breathe sweety breathe and it'll all come out right in the end

    ps love the earrings

  • At August 11, 2009 10:56 am, Blogger Jejune said…

    OMG, I'm in awe of your jumpers!! They are ALL stunning.

    I reckon I'd go to the Manager about the bully ... and see if you can just see the nice one all the time. If they don't get feedback about how she's behaving, she'll keep doing it to everyone.

    Well done on your progress, too!


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